“Make no mistake, indecision is still a decision.”
Decisions have gone underground. Our mind makes thousands of decisions for us every day. But, we are unconscious of nearly all of these decisions. Meet our underutilized, unappreciated power to choose.
We are free to choose our relationships, work, volunteering and education, a place to make a home, consumer purchases and so many more life-changing decisions. In a time of such great freedom of choice, it is confusing why we choose through indecision. Rather than seeing the pattern of situations that have the same lesson to learn — the same decisions to make — it is too easy to unconsciously continue that pattern even if it doesn’t work. Worse, many feel like a victim of the pattern they themselves are creating through indecision.
Each of us is presented with opportunities to choose another way. There are moments in the day when we might just become aware that a choice to go one way or the other will have consequences in our life. Thinking about the consequences, we might even be able to imagine the effects that our choice in either of the directions would cause. Most often, the decision is not made, delayed, rationalized or simply forgotten. That is until the next opportunity arises to make the same decision dressed up a little differently this time.
Indecision is postponing what our heart knows is right.
The wonder of our brain is that it allows us to function in a complex rapidly changing world. We are able to navigate a constant stream of stimuli, reactions and messages with amazing ease. Our brain enables our mind to be free to imagine and choose. Our heart enables us to feel our choices even before we would make them. Trying on possible choices through imagining and feeling them is profoundly powerful. It is a unique gift of power to create through a single choice. A single choice can cause a cascade of change. And yet, this single greatest power of a human being consciously choosing is for the most part… unused.
Is it avoidance of pain?
Is it needing that “never again” moment?
Is it our ego keeping us “safe” by staying in the same pattern rather than risking a change that may be worse (even if the current pattern is awful)?
Is it being disconnected from our feelings in a desensitized world?
Is it a lack of passion, purpose, drive?
Is it an entitlement trap where it seems easier to become dependent on someone or something we place above us and then expect support, attention or hand-outs?
Is it fear alone that holds us back from using our power of choice?
We admire people who make decisions.
Then, most of us have opinions about the choices and the effects of decision-makers. What we admire is the power of choice. We love the stories of how that arrived at that moment of choice. We also love to know the full story of the long chain of effects caused by that moment of choice. So really, we are admiring what each of us has as the potential to make decisions each and every moment of each and every day.
Who should we then admire?
The employer who can fire you… or the employee who can leave the job?
The parent who says “no”… or the child who can still do it?
The person who complains loudly… or the person who acts to make a change happen?
The victim who wants others to solve it… or the one who chooses to own making a better life?
The passive, unconscious, pleasure and safety-seeking people we all can be are giving up power to choose. The power is with those who will stand up, pause reactions, work through a painful pattern and seek a meaningful life. This power has NOTHING to do with being famous, spectacular or the best of anything. This power of choice only has to do with what is inside us.
We are responsible for our in-decisions just as much as our decisions. We can consciously and actively take our power to experience a really cool, caring and exciting fulfilling life that we create every day. By Choice. Because we are far more powerful than anyone knows. The greatest power we have is choice.